In our waiting room, we provide journals for women to record their thoughts and experiences.  Here is what some of them have had to say:

    • I always thought when I met the right man everything would fall right into place.  Well . . . I met him, I love him, and I’m marrying him but even all that couldn’t make it the right time to have this baby.  We’re so sad, but we know the right time will come.  Funny . . . we played by the rules, too—used birth control and all.  I’m so, so sad, but I’m moving forward.
    • I am 38 and a mother of two wonderful children.  I sit here scared but comfortable in my decision.  We are all strong or we wouldn’t be here.  I would love to have another child—my two kids are my world, but the timing is wrong so I find myself making a decision I thought I would never have to make.  I’ve asked myself how did a middle class, well-educated woman get herself into this situation?  There are no class, financial, race boundaries.  I know the decision I will now act on is right for me and my children.
    • I am here for my checkup.  I had the medical procedure done two weeks ago.  I thought it was going to be worse than it really was.  I’m glad I had – and still have—a choice.  I have a six-month old son, and having two babies right now wouldn’t be fair to any of us.
    • I am 28 and have had two abortions and right now I’m pregnant and very happy.  I am here with my friend who just five months ago had a baby and has decided that right now isn’t a good time to have another one.  She is scared, just like I was, but we all get through it.  You know what’s right for you and only you.
    • This choice was the hardest and easiest I have yet had throughout my life—it is a process of loss, of grief, of guilt, of fright . . . but also a process of forgiveness, of unbelievable learning, of accepting second chances .. . and taking them.
    • I am 35 years old, here with my 17 year old who is having an abortion.  She doesn’t want me to go in “the room” with her, and when she went I didn’t know what to say but I love you and as she walked away I cried.  I was here myself when she was two years old but for some reason I can’t share this with her.. . . I have no regrets and it was the best thing at the time and the sadness goes away.
    • Imagine if you didn’t have this choice.  Remember that the personal is political and many, many women in this country are counting on your support in the next election.  Let us not have a leader who wants control over our bodies and our lives.
    • I’m here with my beautiful sister who is making the right decision at this point in her life . . . . I have also been here for the same reasons.  She is such a brave woman and I am very happy and touched that I could be here to support her and let her know she’s making a good choice . . . . Her own choice.  As a mother of two now, I know the beauty and struggles of being completely responsible for children.  You need to be ready, and every woman should know that it’s okay not to be ready.  Please feel no guilt or shame . . . women who make decisions for themselves should feel empowered.
    • I am here with my 21 year old daughter to support her in her decision to end her pregnancy.  We are so fortunate to live in a country that allows organizations to provide health care for women who find themselves in this situation.  Women must stand together in mutual support to keep these necessary and important clinics open and available to all women.
    • I’m here after my abortion for my two week check-up.  I’m happy and back to normal.  I made the right decision and I’m moving forward and I feel great.  Looking only back two weeks ago, I was sooooo scared. . . . Today, you’re gonna walk out with weight lifted off your shoulders.
    • Not even close to as scary or painful as I thought.  The people here are lovely.  I feel so blessed to have my sister and mother here with me.  You girls will be fine, just breathe deep and seek peace.
    • I’m 20 years old and feel this is the best choice I’ve made for my future.  It’s scary and extremely hard because before I was always against abortion, but I know in my heart that it would be more selfish to bring a child into this world when I myself am still such a baby.
    • You need to be mentally, financially, and spiritually ready to have children.  They deserve 100% of you, 100% of your heart, your time, your soul.  If you’re not ready, you’ve already made the best decision.I had an abortion two years ago and I don’t regret it.  I love my son more than life itself – he’s almost three.  If I hadn’t had the abortion it would have been harder than ever for me.  Respect yourself and love yourself.  Don’t be mislead by the ignorance of others. . . decide what you think is right for you.
    • Every feeling you have is reasonable – fear, confusion, disappointment, relief.  It’s all okay, and the women who work here are wonderful.  Just keep thinking that you’ve made a very responsible decision and there’s nothing wrong with that.
    • As soon as I saw the little line on the EPT, I knew this was not meant to be.  I made my appointment five minutes later.  I’m scared as hell, but there’s so much I haven’t done yet and my dreams don’t include a child for a long time.  Don’t be scared to grieve—you are losing something whether you wanted it or not. . . . I hope that everyone who passes through here can feel now like they are not the only ones who have felt like this.  I am grateful to my mom, who always taught me that we have the right to choose. . . . This is the only choice for me.
    • I feel confident in myself and comfortable doing this procedure.  I have support from my family and friends, and even my boyfriend and the clinic.  I feel this clinic is doing good for the community and myself.
    • We are so very lucky to have the ability to make choices such as abortion.  Being in a wonderful relationship at the age of 26 and finding out we were pregnant was the biggest shock of both our lives.  Not only are we not emotionally or financially ready, we are going through so much in our lives right now and it’s not fair to the child.  I would love to have a few children, but I want the best for them—they are so worth it.
    • I’m here with a friend.  I made the same choice for myself six years ago when I was 18 years old.  I too was scared, confused, and totally ashamed.  The only thing I remember is being afraid that I would never get pregnant again when the time was right.  I just want to let you know that I am now 24 years old and I am married with a little boy who is four years old and a little girl who is two.  They are both healthy and I’ve never looked back again.
    • We should feel lucky that we have choices.  Think of the ladies before us who had no choice!!!
    • I need to do this.  There’s a world out there I need to experience before I can help a child experience it.
    • I won’t lie and say I’m not nervous.  I am.  I also know this is for the best.  I am already a mom of three wonderful children.  My youngest is 13 years.  I know everything will be fine.
    • I will never forget about this and I will be more careful.

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